Thoughts for this Good (?) Friday
I do not like to be alone (well, never, mostly) but even
moreso when I am afraid or sad. And I usually feel both afraid and sad, a
little bit, and lonely, on Good Friday. Today all of these are bigger, of
course. I’ve already been afraid and sad and lonely for weeks, in this
isolation, so there’s a cumulative effect. And they’re bigger because on a “normal”
Good Friday the fear and sadness are related to Jesus, and only Jesus, for me.
I feel things deeply, and the sadness of the story of Jesus’ Last Supper,
betrayal, trial, torture, and crucifixion hit me hard. Disciples running away
to hide in a room because they are afraid makes perfect sense for me. I don’t
feel sad very often, but on these days I feel all the feels, and I’m grateful
for the space and permission these days give me to do the feeling. Of course, I
know what comes next; if I didn’t, I’m not sure I could bear it.
But this year? Fear and sadness and loneliness, oh yes. Here
they are, as they have been loitering outside the door of my heart for weeks
now, once in a while opening up to poke their faces in and remind me they are
there. And it hasn’t been related to Jesus, but to people I love whom I cannot
see right now, and the identity crisis of figuring out what it means to be a
pastor when I can’t gather my people, and the possibility of death creeping in
unannounced.
Death is always there, of course, pandemic or not, flying
about our heads like a dementor that we cannot see because we choose to believe
it isn’t real. Or flitting through our dreams in the middle of the night when
we wake up in a panic and want to call our loved one right then to make sure it
was only a dream. Death is a promise that is so much easier to hold onto than
is resurrection, for we see it every day and have had our lives altered by it.
I trust in God’s unfailing love that is Jesus, but it doesn’t mean I want to
have a loved one die, ever, and especially not in this time when we cannot hold
a funeral for a proper and ritual good-bye. And what if the loved one is me, or
my partner? Or (God forbid) my children? None of us is exempt; the virus is not
asking for credentials to prove who is worthy.
Over and over again Jesus tells us, “Do not be afraid!” This
is the time I need to hear that, “Do not be afraid, it is I!” But we don’t get
it. In all the Passion accounts, in the last minute admonitions at the last
supper, in the trial and the words from the cross, Jesus does not tell us not
to be afraid. I guess it’s OK to be afraid now?
These holy days of this holy week are called “Triduum”—three
days. Not one day, not separate, but three days held together, because we
cannot endure any one of them without the others. I will miss attending an
Easter Vigil this year (I may find one online) because it’s the only thing that
can pull me out of the funk into which the fear, sadness, and loneliness of
Maundy Thursday and Good Friday cast me. But I have a new ritual which helps.
My daily walks remind me that there is a world out there, there are other
humans who gleefully return my waves across the street, and, most significantly
for today, there is spring, which thankfully is not in quarantine, is not put
on hold. Spring is ruining the surprise, and I’m grateful for the spoiler, for
I need to remember that God has a response to this fear and sadness. God’s promise
is LIFE, new life from death. We don’t get the one without the other; we go
through the one to get to the other.
The fear and sadness of these days this particular year is
great, harder than ever. But I am confident that God’s love, made real for us
in Christ Jesus’ death and resurrection, is greater still. I may not feel that
feeling in this moment, but as the sun sets and rises on each day, we are
closer to that truth. And if we cannot walk the final step because of our
grief, God brings it to us. This God of new life will not let fear and sadness
have the last word, because God’s good word is Jesus. When we get to the empty
tomb, finally we will hear again, Do not be afraid! And I will be ready to shed
my fear and sadness, celebrating LIFE again, and know the waiting is worth it,
until we can celebrate life together. It will come, even though we don’t know
when just yet. God is here, and Easter comes, no matter what—thanks be to God!
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Thank you for sharing your heart! This year more than most, the sorrowful ache is palpable.
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